Diligently SEEKing Him will bring you to a closer more intimate relationship with Him. This will allow you to tune into His voice and direction for your life.
At that point, it is imperative that you LISTEN to His voice. Come out of the flesh and remember you are seeking His will and not your desires.
After you have done these two things the last and most important thing is to OBEY. Once you have been praying and seeking and listening to His voice don't destroy those attributes by being disobedient.
Things may look like they are never going to manifest. Don't you give up! Everything may point to a reason to doubt. Don't you give up! Divine placement at just the right God ordained divine time will cause that person or thing to come into your life to make you realize that everything else didn't work because you didn't seek God first to get them. Take those mishaps as learning tools. You now know how to appreciate the person or thing that God will place into your life. No longer will you chose out of your own flesh things that look good on the outside but aren't good for you. I'm not saying the people of your past are bad people they just weren't good for you.
I'm so glad that I've learned these critical faith producing methods because now I am living in the abundant life that God has promised me. Only God can give you true joy in each area of your life.
Remember, always use Lady Monica's "SLO" factor and watch the changes in your life begin to occur. Love and Blessings.